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Why You Should Strengthen Relationships Between Clients

Hosting events to get your clients together will only strengthen and deepen their connection with you.

Our studies on developing social relationships with clients have been widely publicized. Getting social increases client loyalty, asset penetration and referral flow. Much of this confirms what we already know: strengthening the relationship between you and your clients will help your business. Shifting gears for a moment: What impact might it have to strengthen the relationships among your clients?

Here’s why it’s worth pursuing. The more deeply clients connect with one another, the more deeply they are connected to you. Let’s look at a few examples of this principle in action.

Example 1: Bob hosted a semiannual dinner for eight clients who all retired from the same company. They didn’t all know each other prior to these dinners, but over time, they grew to like each other and really look forward to Bob’s events. In his last dinner, Bob’s clients had a roundtable discussion on finding others from the company to join the group, and work with Bob.

Example 2: Sharon hosted an intimate dinner party at her house. Of the 10 clients she invited, one was divorced and the other widowed. Long story short, they hit it off, continued the relationship and ultimately got married. Think their bond with Sharon was strengthened?

Example 3: Tom hosts regular viewing parties for major sporting events (NCAA tournament, World Series, etc.).  He invites clients, prospects, friends and COIs. It’s become such a routine that when a major sporting event is coming up, people email him to make sure they are included on the invite. 

Much like your biological family, the ties within your “business family” are strengthened when members interact frequently, help one another, and share common experiences. Your goal is to serve as a central hub in a network of people linked to your business. After all, you’re in a unique position to connect potential friends, business partners and service providers.

Here are three action steps to get you started.

1. Play Matchmaker

Which of your clients would benefit from meeting each other? Maybe you think they’d make great friends, golfing buddies or business partners. This could be as simple as “I’m organizing a foursome for golf. I wanted to get you and another client of mine, Susan Jones, on the course together. I think you’ll like each other.”

2. Host Frequent Intimate Events

This is a staple of creating client connectivity. Keep them small, inexpensive and logistically simple and you can afford the time and energy to do them regularly (we recommend monthly). You might consider grouping the same clients together often. You’ll be surprised how many become “fast friends” through meeting at a couple dinner parties.

3. Organize Outings Centered Around Community Events

A close cousin to hosting an intimate event, keep an eye out for local events to which you could invite a group of like-minded clients. If you consistently get a group of people together for craft beer tastings, music in the park, running local races or yoga events, you’ll build connectivity quite easily.

In the big picture, we’re looking to create a sense of community linked to your service offering. We’ve all felt this at some point in the past—maybe at your fitness facility or your children’s school. Building bonds with other people in an organization results in strengthening your overall bond with the actual organization. 


@StephenBoswell is President of The Oechsli Institute and co-author of Best Practices of Elite Advisors@KevinANichols is the Chief Operating Officer for The Oechsli Institute and co-author of The Indispensable LinkedIn Sales Guide for Financial Advisors.

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