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Disputes often arise when a “local” sibling provides care and support for a parent at the end of life, while the other sibling is “distant,” either physically, psychologically or otherwise. In this scenario, the local sibling typically “helps” with (i.e., controls) most aspects of the elderly parent’s life—including bank accounts, doctor appointments and care providers. Thus, the local sibling often feels entitled to more from the parent, regardless of the parent’s wishes.
Over time, the local sibling may use proximity to the parent to begin a “money grab.” For example, the local sibling is added as a signatory to the parent’s checking account, ostensibly for convenience. Sometimes the local sibling exercises such control over the parent that he or she orchestrates an entire new estate plan or arranges to be added as a joint tenant on the parent’s house. Very often it is not until the parent’s death that a distant sibling learns about what has happened. The distant sibling suspects undue influence on the part of the local sibling, and a dispute arises, often creating contentious litigation.
For lack of a better term, “gold diggers” exist—there are individuals who seek close personal relationships with elderly persons for their own financial gain. This was the case with J. Howard Marshall and Anna Nicole Smith and John Seward Johnson (of Johnson & Johnson) and his third wife (though, despite what these high-profile cases may indicate, gold diggers aren’t limited to one sex).
Sometimes, a late-in-life spouse has no ill intentions and simply can’t get along with the preexisting children, be it over matters of inheritance or just not being welcomed (or making an effort to fit) into the existing family paradigm.
Such scenarios often result in estate disputes between the late-in-life spouse and adult children or other persons who once stood to inherit. The spouse claims true love, the children claim undue influence, and the disputes almost always are fueled by personal animus and resentment between the parties.
Familial situations involving second marriages with children from previous marriages are increasingly common. In this scenario, the new spouses very often are clear with their intentions and seek to do the right thing. They both fully and sincerely intend for all children from their blended family to share in their joint estates, whether they intend for all the children to share equally or based on the amount of assets each spouse brought to the marriage. Often, they seek to accomplish this goal by each executing wills reflecting their joint wishes, but often these wills begin with a transfer of all assets from one spouse to the other when the first dies.
Despite good intentions, this can lead to problems. For example, the husband may predecease the wife who eventually loses touch or becomes estranged from her stepchildren. If the husband’s will left assets to her with the expectation that her will would pass the assets along according to their long-term wishes, all certainty is lost. She can then make a new estate plan based on her own wishes. Depending on her relationship with her stepchildren, she might decide to leave everything to her own kids.
When there are no family members to take care of an elderly client, he is often forced to rely on caregivers and other professionals for care. Unfortunately, these paid professionals can, likewise, be opportunists, preying on the weakened faculties and necessary dependency of their charges. In such a case, a client’s children and grandchildren may be disinherited (or have their inheritances significantly reduced) in favor of the nurse, attorney or other caregiver.
By way of example, a number of parties are currently litigating the estate of Ernie Banks, the famous Chicago Cub and baseball hall of famer, who made substantial estate planning changes late in his life in favor of a personal nurse and to the detriment of adult family members.
The most important first step is planning, but not necessarily estate planning. By the time one of these situations has begun, it's too late for thorough estate planning. Indeed, many of these situations occur despite good estate planning. Instead, your client needs to prepare for battle. That does not mean racing to the courthouse to sue everyone in sight. It does mean thinking through your options and taking initial steps to prepare for a potential fight.
The second step is to remember that the loved one’s will is not the only issue. In fact, for most people, the will is much less important than other documents. A last will and testament controls only assets belonging to the deceased’s estate. Most people, however, do not have significant assets in their estate. Instead, most people’s sizable assets pass outside the estate, probate and are not controlled by the will.
For example, most retirement accounts, investment accounts, and life insurance policies use payable-on-death beneficiary forms which designate who gets the particular asset at issue. The will does not override these forms.
So, as an estate dispute is simmering, it is vitally important to make sure that these non-probate assets are considered. Otherwise, there is a great risk of winning the battle over the will, but losing the war over the real assets.
