Darkest Before Dawn: Saga of a Struggling Advisor
It sounds like to me that you need two basic things that will greatly improve your life and your business. You need more self-worth and motivation.
A bit of a personal anecdote. I'm 23 years old. I'm a former powerlifter and college baseball player. I found an extreme amount of success in powerlifting but ended my career with a back injury. As a result, I was sidelined for the better part of the first 2 years of college. During that time, I ballooned up from 211 pounds to 240+ at the height of things. My junior year, my girlfriend(who I had dated for almost 4 years) broke up with me. I was devastated and that was my motivation. I weighed myself the day after at 244lbs and decided I was going to show her. I was extremely strict with my diet, weight lifting, and running. I was on a strict 2000 calorie a day diet. I also had baseball practice for 2 hours and immediately after I would lift weights for 1 hour and jog 6 miles after that. I went from 244 pounds down to 190 in 15 weeks. After that everything improved, my grades got even better, I had to push away girls at the bar, and I hardly ever got sick any more.
I try and treat my business the same way although I've had time where I've fallen out of the groove. I'm still very new to the business, but I always remember that having a schedule and plan to stick to makes things easy.
Get to feeling better about yourself and your life and everything will improve. Set goals for yourself and exceed them. It's very easy to go through the motions without a plan, but with one, you can either say "Did I accomplish this?"
Everyone will agree that the way your carry yourself affects how you are perceived. No one wants to do business with someone who is fat, sad, and depressed. They want the biggest and baddest out there and you need to feel like you're that package.
I will say as a great disclaimer that I know dieting and fitness like the back of my hand. I squatted 675 pounds when I was 17 years old, played college baseball, lost 54 pounds like I told you, and I come from a family of runners. However, the business side of things, I'm still very new at, but I try and learn as much as possible and so far I feel like I'm ahead of the game.
You have kids so that should be an easy motivation for your life and business. One the business side, do you want them to get a new pair of socks from Santa or do you want them to have an entire Toys R Us under the tree? On the personal side, do you want to be around to be a grandpa some day or do you want to die from a heart attack at 50? Get to feeling better about yourself and others will feel better about you. When that happens, the more people you talk to, the more success you will have.
Send me a private message if you'd like to talk more about it. I'm happy to help because I've been there in certain ways.